How to Read Your Partner’s Mind

We’re just kidding! We can’t actually tell you how to do that. But wouldn’t you like to know how to understand your partner’s thoughts and feelings? You’ve come to the right place!

As life hands you its challenges, wouldn’t you like to know your partner is there for you and has your back when you encounter a roadblock? Your partner wants to know you are there for them, too. Let’s get started!

What the research says

The best place to start is to get curious and listen attentively. A study published by the American Psychological Association found that when one partner was able to explain a stressful situation to their attentive, listening partner, they were happier in their relationship. Let your partner know they are seen and heard, no matter what they are going through.

Roadblocks

What if your partner is more buttoned up and not comfortable talking about their feelings? They might not know how to be open and vulnerable with you, but you can implement some strategies to make them feel more comfortable.

Putting it into practice

Carina Wolff shares 11 ways to get your partner to open up:

• Ask an honest open question

• Be vulnerable with your partner

• Carve out a time to talk

• Do something fun together

• Listen actively (see above)

• Read your partner’s body language

• Be caring and appreciative

• Reflect what they say back to them

• Try something new

If none of these strategies work, a trained therapist can help someone be able to talk about their feelings more freely.

May you never have to resort to mind reading!

For more information on curiosity read Curiosity Allows Us to Fall in Love Over and Over Again