MSNBC or Fox: How to Navigate Differences of Opinions

Has your partner ever said something so upsetting or confusing that it makes you
question your hearing? 

Maybe you didn’t hear them correctly or they were joking. They can’t be serious, can they? 

Perhaps your partner makes a dismissive comment about a journalist you like. Maybe you vote completely differently. Or maybe you disagree on how to raise your kids or how to spend your money.

Let’s be real. Couples have so many possible things to disagree about. Your disagreements could lead to some problems and uncomfortable conversations. 

Here’s the good news: your conversations do not have to be explosive or intense. Sure you can disagree more constructively than Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt! Just follow these steps:

How to navigate differences in a relationship

• Approach with curiosity: Be calm and try to see things from their perspective. Think about your partner’s thought process. Ask questions to understand their take on the situation. Why would they think this way?

• Empathy: Genuinely see it from their point of view. What are they feeling? How can I help them feel safe enough to discuss this with me?

• Be on the same team. Focus on the issue and not on each other: Don’t let your disagreements lead to name-calling or negative energy. This isn’t about you vs them. It’s about us vs. the problem. Compromise and work together to find a solution to the problem.

• Agree to disagree: If you can’t reach a compromise, then agree to disagree. Keep your mind focused on your love for your partner. Respect is more important than agreement on every issue.

The bottom line

Every couple will have disagreements, but they don’t have to tear you apart. Approach the issue with curiosity, use empathy and understanding, be on the same team, and tackle the issue together. When all else fails, agree to disagree without judgment and holding a grudge.